At some point in our lives, we have to take a look at acceptance, fitting in & where our passions lie. I feel sure most of us ask ourselves the question “what am I doing?” somewhere along the line. You just suddenly find yourself stopping and then the next line goes something like “is this really me?” It’s as though you are merrily going along and then ‘wham’ suddenly out of the blue, these thoughts or questions come at you like a four by four. They stop you right in your tracks.
It’s like some sort of epiphany. You simply realise that whatever you are doing isn’t you anymore. Perhaps, not everyone goes through this, but I do feel sure that a good majority of folk wonder about their lives, what they are doing, where they are going and why they haven’t been able to instigate some changes.
As little munchkins, our souls are trying to fit in with the families that we are born to and equally with the schools that we attend. However, there isn’t a great deal of room for creative expression, in whichever form that takes, and the social structures that exist. Bog standard curriculums have to be met, behaviour adhered to and rules & regulations obeyed. Such is the set up. I guess you could call this the order factor and without it we might be in chaos.
However, if the ‘order factor’ gets a little too weighty then we start to feel robotic, identity less, a bit rebellious, frustrated and a whole host of negative emotions start to seep in. The trouble is we all want to fit in and we all want to be accepted by our friends or peers or colleagues and family members. But the real crunch comes when the need to fit in and be accepted by our perception of society & family outbids our very own self-acceptance. In other words, if you are prepared to sacrifice yourself so that you will fit in and be accepted by others, then the slippery slope is waiting for you to take the fall and slide. And remember there’s always going to be people out there, who want you in their group if it means they can get their own way, puff their chests out like some rooster and you just lamely tag along. But this isn’t expansive enough for your life….. Hell no!
Finding your tribe and your element depends entirely on your passions and what floats your boat. What do you love doing?
Some people are completely stuck with this question. Their ‘diamond’ has become so caked in junk and tarnished to such an extent that they actually don’t even know what they like to do anymore. It’s sad but a fact. But, the diamond has not gone AWOL it’s still there albeit somewhat lost. So finding yourself is the key and a great place to start is with your senses.
Which senses are your predominant ones and which light you up? I am a very very visual person indeed. I adore colour and light and when these senses are stimulated, I start to radiate my own enthusiasm & with that my energy comes alive and I become highly charged and expansive. I am exceedingly kinaesthetic too along with clairsentient (I feel everything). Therefore, I am at my best when these particular senses are being utilized or turned on. Now I happen to know this about myself but I’ve also taken this understanding to an even deeper level of acceptance and boy does this feel wonderful. I get a real buzz when I look into people’s energy systems and see colours, shapes, tubes, odd patterns and lights etc. It’s the part of healing where I really thrive, come alive and am truly fascinated. When I first got into this stuff, I was scared people would think me too whacky and out there but now, I’m not too bothered. So the more I have accepted myself, the more fun and happier I have become. And it will be the same for you too.
So the first thing to establish is which out of your senses are you most stimulated by? Let’s take a look at the list:
- Smell
- Taste
- Auditory (clairaudience)
- Visual (clairvoyant)
- Touch/Feel (clairsentience)
- Balance & Acceleration
- Temperature
- Pain
- Body & Relationship of environment (Kinaesthetic)
Intuition, I hate to say is not considered a sense even though it is often referred to as the ‘sixth sense’ but scientifically it cannot be categorised in the same way as the above.
While we may be stimulated to a greater or lesser degree by most of these, some definitely are going to have a greater impact. I am not the most auditory of people. As a child, I would often ‘turn off’ when someone was in lecture mode or telling me how to do something at school. It was as if I couldn’t compute. I recall having trouble following stories being told when ‘Listening with Mother’ was on the radio. I would get restless and distracted because I had difficulty maintaining concentration with this particular sense. Yet if you gave me something to do with visuals or puzzles, I could spend hours being thoroughly absorbed.
So it’s all a question of working with yourself and determining which out of these senses starts to fire you up and try to recall all those things that you naturally enjoyed playing as a child. Trust me; you will have all the answers.
If I go out to eat in a restaurant or coffee shop, the visual environment is really important. I get as much of a kick from the design, the colours, the brick work or the flooring as I do the cup of tea & cake. What about you? Is it important for you to be with other people chatting and sod the decor or are the aromas a necessity to fire you up? Perhaps the actual food takes more precedence, but what stimuli excite you and ignite your passion?
As you become more aware of your sensory needs and start to incorporate activities that enhance your specific senses, you will find yourself becoming more enthused, alive and expansive. It’s all a question then of encompassing the real you into your life. You may find yourself dropping some friends, not because you don’t like them anymore, but simply because you belong elsewhere and in a different tribe. As you start to become more and more authentic, you then realise exactly how important your authenticity is to you. And as a further benefit, the Law of Attraction kicks in big time and you start to attract all these great experiences and people who share the very same passions as you. How fab is that!
Other peoples’ codes and rules then seem unimportant because you’ve found yourself. No longer do you need to belong to a tribe per se because you’ve discovered your very own self acceptance.